Replies to the previous Picture of the Day post.

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@ArMs –

he’s playin Counter-Strike and he’s holding a shotgun! ;P syoknya…

ArMs – Nice eyesight. Yes, he prefers this shotgun compares to the machine gun. His other favorite, the Sniper.

@chegu carol –

what is Josh doin with a headcrown on his head???….hmmm….

eiii…ou PC table looks the same lah PapaJ. Hehe…itu pula sia tinguk.

Carol – Hahaha. That is why this is the picture of the day. We have no idea why he suddenly want to wear that.
This pc table has been with us for 5 years already. Still usable.

@Shemah –

I don’t know about anyone else, but I think him using that headband is pretty funny.. And the smart part, well, I see that he’s so terrer at using the keyboard and the mouse to play CS. I mean, he’s only 3!!

Hebat lah anak2 papaJ ni! semua pun hebat2 belaka!

Shemah – Yeah, thats the funny part actually. The headband. He’s smart for me simply becoz yes, can use the keyboard (see the left hand) and the shotgun. In fact, he’s better than me. Hahaha. I really spoilt him.

@ArMs –

hey papajoneh, cya kasi tag ko ah;)

http://www.okayarms.com/index.php/personal/tagged-by-si-havuk/

ArMs – wow the TAG! Ok, will check that later.

@Gallivanter –

Headband???

Gallivanter – Yeah, the wife’s headband. No idea why

@cindy –

LOL Josh with a crown?! LOL!!!!!

cindy – Ohhh, That’s what you all call it… LOL.

@chinnee –

Joneh, go install camera on your computer at work and at home. then u can see your family liao!

chinnee – wow.. now i remember what I wnat to buy. Thanks for reminding me. I missed the recent PIKOM here. Thanks.

@JO-N –

He’s wearing a handband. At my first glance, I thought it was a girl.

An award and a tag for you:

http://love4kids.blogspot.com/2007/12/thank-you-for-being-my-friend-award.html

JO-N – the TAG again. Thanks for it. I will do it later ok. Thanks

@WeiChuen –

Alaa the headcrown spoils Josh’s macho-ness lah PapaJ.. lol..

Weichuen – Hahahahha. Josh don’t care one. He himself put it. That is why this is the picture of the day. LOL.

@Mama BoK –

Hehehhe!! the hairband..!! Is he playing unreal tournament..???

Mama BoK – He is playing the Counter Strike Original on Normal mode.

@eshark –

Wouhhh.. what la you all guys!!.. this little fighter kills much better with the brown star crown bah! dont underestimate the boy.

eshark – Hahahhaa. Maybe that is why Josh use that hairband / crown. Must be lah because he kills lot of enemy on his own and completed all the easy mode all by himself. Pretty smart boy for me.

@nimrodjo –

Cute Josh….very cute…games can be overstimulating for kids…be careful bro..

nimrodjo – Thanks for reminding. In fact he learn lot of good english words from the games he plays. So it is ok by now.

@olieee –

Fuyoh!! i long time adi no play play CS wor….
anybody wanna play against me? i use oni dessert eagle & heat shot U.. he,he,he kidding..
he,he,he… cute juga anak ko PapaJ!!!

olieee – Hahhaa. I seldom play this also. This is to train josh quick reflex. Thanks for the compliment.

@sasha –

what is he doing with a headband? follow PAPA style izit?

sasha – Hahahhaa. He use it himself. No idea why. Crazy unpredictable boy.

@amie –

wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!! Dia terrorist kah counter nie? Hancurrrr…! Yea, headband??? -_-

amie – He is always the terrorist. He likes to kill good guy. hahahaha. The headband is there to somehow give him power, i think so. ahahhaha.

@ann –

I wonder why he’s wearing the headband.. probably it gives him luck while playing his favorite game!
Habis lah you Papajoneh, two years from now you will need to buy him his own pc with good graphic card! LOL

ann – I wondered at first but i guess it gives me power, maybe. Hahaha. About the pc with graphic card, actually already bought. Actually with extra 1GB RAM and with AMD Extreme Dual Core, DVD writer SATA some more

@Annie Q –

I saw he wear a hairband! ahahahaha..yours one or ur wife one?

Annie Q – hahahaha. Yeah he did it on himself. Of course not mine. Wife’s own.

I know this is long overdue replies but I did read and understood them. All I can say thanks for the comments for my birthday post and thanks for keep coming back here. My fault if you think I do not reply any comment. My fault if you thought I ignore your comment. My fault and I am really sorry. I hope this post will clear all and show that I appreciate each and everyone of you. This is just the beginning.

@ann –

Aiya! Don’t want your wife to be jealous lah.. I only do this to the few blogger friends I get to know in my earlier blogging experience. And you’re one of them.

Ann – don’t worry about that. She asked me to put that “jealous” word there because she really did not give me any cake. hahahaha. Thanks for listing me as one of the few
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Continuing from previous post, Replies Part 1. Now at 2 hours later. Everyone asleep. Yes even myJosh.
For info, my Presley just broke a record on milk drinking just now. Guess how much he drank nonstop? Answer next post lah. LOL.

Here [tag]Replies Part 2[/tag]:

@conancat –

oh my, josh sounds pretty pretty demanding @__o sakitnya… and ouch your eyes! >__

conancat – yes he is one demanding kid. I have adult friends like this too. Hahaha. And the left eye, aduh…memang sakit pun(yes it hurt me badly). Nasib tidak buta (luckily it didn’t blind me).

@Shemah –

Honestly, I don’t think Josh is being unreasonable at all. Maybe a little demanding, which is no surprise as ALL 3 year olds are like that at one point or another.. even WITHOUT having siblings.

Josh needs some time to adjust. If parents need to adjust, what more to say a 3 year old. Some of the comments above seem so harsh, I think you can’t expect too much out of a 3 year old.. poor Josh can’t suddenly become a big brother that knows what responsibility means. All he wants is mommy and daddy to play with him like they did before AND manage the twins at the same time.

So basically, give him time. This is the part where your patience needs to be berdouble-double triple triple.

As for me, when the 2nd baby comes, I will expect Buddy to behave more or less like Josh as well. They’re still babies (to me).. and need attention too. Budak tua bangkak umur 24 tahun pun masih manja sama mama. Apalagi budak 3 tahun. Hang in there papaJPP!! I wish you all the best!

Shemah – Thanks. Appreciate it very much. You understood very well the 3 yrs old period. yeah, Josh just wanted my attention… in full 110% that’s all. Hahahaha.

I can’t wait for your 2nd one. Sure fun

@Mr. Triple D –

poor lil josh..jealous of his lil twin bro..u buy la josh a new toy..

3xD – Good idea. Simple advice and yet I believe the most effective one. Hahaha. Thanks

@anggie –

i think jealousy is normal among kids, as long as not very serious type of jealousy , give josh some time to make used to him that his a big brother now. Later he will be proud to be bro and taking k them… need time, need time …

anggie – “where got time” – to “I got time” Astro ads. Funny, now I remembered myJosh said, all the toys belong to him only. “Not adik own!” hahahaha. Really the typical “koko” or big brother.

@Just call me Aunty J –

I can understand how hard it can be for both you and your wife to handle Josh especially with your new twins…hope he will get himself adjusted to the new environment soon…as I dont have the experience of handling first-born with a new baby yet, the least n I could do is to give you this site http://babyparenting.about.com/od/training/f/jealousy.htm

It seems like a good one…all the best to you and your wifey…hope Josh will start to accept his new role as a big bro soon Hang in there my fren!

Joyce – Thanks for the link and being understanding. I’m hanging on a very thin rope now. Anytime gone. Hahaha. Yeah, myJosh will see that he’s a big brother already.

@hcfoo –

Wah, Papajoneh need to work on weekend night???

Seems like Josh is jealous and wants attention

hcfoo – Yes, working on weekends for the past 11 years already
Yeah, myJosh wanted attention. He need like now and must now. If not… you jaga, I poke your eyes again! LOL.

@clement –

i have to study during merdeka.. apparently, malaysian holiday won’t work on Bangladesh’s lecturer

Clement – ok. Thanks for informing me.

@mel –

Be patience..josh will get use to it sooner. He just need to understand why he is not getting all the attention that he used to get last time.

mel – Yabah mel. Kesian juga dia tu.

@sasha –

dun anger…dun anger….

Sasha! – anger anger! Like want to cubit someone’s leg now!

@L’abeille –

Don’t worry le PJ, your eldest son just want a little attention. Remember to spend some quiet time with him once a while, especially now you’ve another two boys taking up most of the attention. from 100% attention last time, now he only gets 33.33333333333% wor..

Haha..talk about poking eyes, last time hor..i even hide my younger sister under the TV cabinet because everybody tells me papa mama don’t love me anymore as they’ve another new baby! ahhahaah.. *hide face*

L’abeille – Yep. I tried my best to spend more time with him . If not kena poke eyes lagi. LOL.

Waaahhh… you were very the “jahat” one also, eh LOL

@charlenediane –

Alamak.. kesian you lah. Body at the office but mind at home. Ish, what a terrible situation to be in. But I can imagine your wife having one hell of a time – taking care of 3 kids by herself! I can volunteer to babysit if you want hehe.

charlenediane – You sound serious to volunteer… I may end up calling you, you know. I really need help at home. Wife could not complain. She just stress, that’s all. Kesian her. I just filling the gap when she’s resting.

Imagine all this while just the two of us handling the boys.

@Jacelyn –

hi, 1st time tagging u…..

http://www.mummyinvain.com/?p=120

Not sure whether u will do tags or not?

Jacelyn – Will do it later on ok. Thanks for remembering me. Pls remind me again ok.

@Sweetpea –

L’abeille seems to be very understanding considering she doesn’t have any kids yet.

Yes, having new members in the family is a big change for everyone, more so for Josh. I suggest no matter how busy you are, you just have to find some time to fit in a one-on-one bonding time with him. Play your pc games. Take just him out for a walk to the store. Whatever. Make him feel that he is not neglected and tell him over and over again you love and care for him the same, no less. Include him in daily chores for the twins. Ask him to get their towels, diapers, etc.

Then you take care of the twins and your wife can then have the same one-on-one time with him. Even if it’s just 10 minutes.

I hope this helps. I have the one and only, so I can only imagine how full and ‘noisy’- in a good way, your lives must be!

take care~

Sweetpea – Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it very much. Yeah, I am doing just that – spending more times with myJosh until he asleep. Hopefully the time he needs me is not the time the babies need me.

Yes L’abeille understood well

@karulann –

Hehehe, your Josh is just like me when I just got my brother… Well I was the only child for 8 years before my annoying brother is born… It’s common for lil’ Josh to get jealous but then need to handle it carefully so that it wouldn’t worsen… Hehehe, good luck in taking care of the twins and also lil’Josh

karulann – Wahhh…. confession lagi. Thanks for sharing that.
Thanks for the wishes. Im handling so the very careful with myJosh. Thanks again.

Phhheewwww … I thought I never finish answering all the comments and advices. To all my visitors and friends, I hope I have some kind of token like the personalized pens to give to each and everyone of you for taking the time to help me lessen my stressful life. I owe you a lot. I hope I can continue blogging as usual. I hope I’ll be feeling as energetic as I am right now; to read and reply all your comments. I hope you can still come back to visit me in the future. Appreciate it. Yes, there’s an evil link out there, somewhere for everyone to click it. LOL.

Replies that you all have been waiting for! Hahaha. Just kidding you there. I feel good this morning so I decided to reply my one-week abandoned old post [tag]I hate working on weekend[/tag]. It is now at 1am and babies are sleeping except myJosh besides me. Yeah, he’s indeed my friend for life

Sorry for the late replies.

@Bent –

hahaha.. you kid so cute..so why you work for just 2 hours? be patient..

Bent – I was on shift.

@Azmeen –

Yep, it’s hard to reason with kids when they’re Josh’s age. I am blessed that my son is very understanding for a four year old.

I must have done something right in my life to deserve him.

Anyway, I think it’s pretty much an adjusting process and Josh haven’t got the bearings 100% correct yet, but I think it’s a matter of time anyway. If you ask me, I’d start talking about school with him from now on.

Tell him how it’s a nice place to meet friends, play fun games and learn new things. Tell him that it’s the best place for children. Tell him that you’d love to send him to school, but he must prove himself worthy of being a scholar first.

Tell him that scholars are responsible, and that if he can’t be more responsible towards his brothers, how can he go to school?

It helps if you can show really fun school scenes on TV, maybe on Playhouse Disney Channel or some really nice non-cartoon kids show.

Azmeen – Thanks for the advice. I did talk to him about all those things you said.. but he is not the typical “Yes, daddy, I listen to whatever you said 3 years old kid”.
I think I have done right too to deserve myJosh. He already can use computer on his own while most kids cannot.

@1+2 mom –

Poor daddy, hope it just temporary that Josh being naughty. I think he need both of parents attention, luckily my son didnt like Josh. I tell him everythin about his sisters when i’m pregnant, evey check up we bring him along to see his sisters in the tummy. I think it take some time to let Josh know his love from daddy mommy will share with his brothers too.

1+2 mom – Yeah.. take some time for my son to understand to all those things.

@yenlin –

how old is Josh btw?
thought he’s a little ‘unreasonable’…

Yenlin – Thanks for dropping by He is at the moment 3 years old It is expected from his age this kind of attitude.

@huisia –

oh,i get your mean as i am in you shoe…Josh is acted similarity like Jo, i think they just feel very unsecure as they are no longer a center of attraction. It takes time to adjust their attitude…wish you good luck!

huisia – Yeah, I read your post, it caught me by surprise too even though its expected.

@Gallivanter –

Ahhh, the infamous “sibling rivalry”…

Gall – You’ve got to learn all this stuff now my friend. But I guess for you, after 5 yrs, eh?

@shana –

be patience..josh will understand sooner or later…jealous la baituh gia…..:D

Shana – Thanks. confirmed jealousy. Terpaksalah bersabar …

@jacss –

oh dear papa, sounded like u & yr wife is in a bit of terrible episode now! i think it is real important to handle josh appropriately at this adjusting period. it’s kind of pity for him coz he has been having all 100% attention & concentration…………and now it has been mostly taken away if not all…….some more not one baby but TWO!
i think it’s impt to look at it from this perspective & help him out…….but sorry not a professional here to give any remedies!!

u r right, protect d twins by all means, get a help for yr wife asap while u r not around & lastly loads of GOOD LUCK !!!

jacss – Thanks. Appreciate it . He is coping well now, as long as I listen to him and not the other way round LOL.

@Julian –

I think its normal for siblings to be jealoused.. what more x2!

Julian – Yes its normal. It was expected but it happened when u least ready for it. You will know later my friend when you decided to get a brother for Raelynne

@janice –

hm.. mayb u can try explaining to Josh ler.. that he is a koko now and hv to help mommy take care of twin.. whn grow up then they can play football together ler..

Good Luck

Janice – Thanks. Already did the talking and still do till now but he still monkey around and only listen when I listened to him. LOL.

@Kay Kastum –

Wow. Must be stressful for you man. Hope things work out soon.

Kay – Thanks. I am stressful because wife and I do all the things without help from any nanny or parents. Talking about independence. Tough.

@cindy –

Alamak, poked your eyes?!

Sorry to hear about the stress life, Papa. I really hope you’ll get a maid soon. My maid in KK told me her friends all sudah ada kerja. But I’ll let you know if we find one, ok?

Cindy – Thanks Cindy for understanding. Thanks about the maid too

@Avijit Paul –

After reading your post I somehow felt that I was something like that when I was a kid. Not sure how much better now haha =p
But, pity for you.

Avijit – Hahaha. Your first confession to me. Thanks for pitying me Avijit.

@flsam –

Nobody like working weekend!! More so for you with your newborn twins. Get a maid may lessen your burden. When you children are still young, it is like that lor. Just be patience.

i have got an Award for you. Come collect at my blog. Hope this will somehow brighten your stressful days.

flsam – Actually I have friends who likes working on weekends. They said higher pay. LOL. Seriously.
I have not checked the award yet but thanks, hopefully it will brighten my stressful days.

I think I publish this replies first. Josh starts to get anxious already for my long typing. He is not sleeping yet and still want me to play his train together with him. Pulling me away now. Wait for my Part 2 replies.

Replying to post What do I miss most during and after pregnancy. Sorry, this is a very [tag]late reply[/tag]. I hope you all understand me. Do not worry, I will remember each and everyone of you. Thanks and to all newcomer here, welcome but totally sorry for the delay in replying and updating this blog.

Here my replies:
@Azmeen –

Personally, I’m not a superstitious person but I think some pantangs are based on facts and are actually good to adhere to.

I also think that it’s good for you to lay off the RC nitro stuff for the time being. With the twins around, I doubt that you can focus on both your kids and the RC truggies at the same time.

Something has got to give, and I’m sure you know which

It’ll just be temporary so… sabarlah bah

Thanks Azmeen. Yeah have to be patient here. Did once during Josh, will do it again for this 2P twins.

@flsam –

This is just temporary, I agreed with Azmeen. When your son are older, you can all the time. Sometime, we have to make some sacrifices. What more your twins identical sons will need your attention more than anything else. Family come fist.

flsam, thanks and yes temporary only.. family come first of course. Just happen that this temporary thing is not getting over in near future… i suspect longer than my Josh time.. well of courselah, double everything.

@Shemah –

I understand how you might be feeling. I assume my husband feels the same way too. I know that he, just like you, has his other passions but would never complain about sacrificing it for us. Don’t worry, you’ll get your chance. Maybe not now, but eventually you will.

Still haven’t got maid?? I’m still looking..

Thanks Shemah for understanding. Coming from a mother, I really appreciate your comment. And yes, sadly, no maid yet. So so “susah” life now and damn it i’m working now.

@Min –

Hi! Hang in there, I’m sure your sacrifices brings about alot of joy and happiness… this is just a temporary phrase, it will pass soon! once your twins grow older, then u’ll be able to enjoy playing games with them etc etc

Min, thanks I will definitely enjoying more when they’ve grown up. games, football, computer… everything… i hope i stay longer to enjoy all this later on.

@massy –

i got wedding invitation next month XD

Wedding again…. see u too massy [but not you right ]

@Yvonne –

So how’s life being a new dad to a pair of twins? dont sigh la.. I’m sure HuiSia will understand. The time with your little ones and your wife is important~~~ Congrats again~

Thanks Yvonne. Congrats on your move to Singapore

@aryst –

Yep…family come first…one thing that I’ve limited the time to do is playing games…man, I loves playing computer games…now, kena kurang2…sekejap istri panggil…sekejap anak minta attention..how to play games like that?…Hujung2, main selepas dorang tido but blogging mo taruk mana?…that is my dilemma now…I chose blogging coz I’m addicted to blog… tapi sekarang very busy…update blog pun susah…reply comment boleh la…

Thanks aryst – see you too busy. but as always, family come first. just happen mine double in everything.. stress level, headache, not enough sleep .. etc.. everything… but all for the family.. and its fun sometimes to change lampin and feed the babies milk.

@1+2 mom –

After be parents we have to give out something, like me. I like reading so much but with them i really have no time to read. They will keep calling me to do this and that, now if i have time i’ll take it to read blog or blog hop..haha..hobbie change jor.

1+2 mom – hobby change indeed. Hahhaa. Yeah, parents have to give out something else in order to get something back from your family. Priority priority. I love to read too. I always carry my computer, rc nitro mag beside me, near the babies cot. LOL.

@jacss –

i absolutely udrstd yr “missing” feelings!
we all been thru that…. as human are ‘greedy’ in nature but thank god u r wise & responsible, knowing what to prioritise, praise u !!
my 2 cents would be to enjoy & treasure these moments, time passes with a blink of eyes!!
i regret started blogging so late…….missed blogging abt their first 3 years and i SUPER missed their baby times now !!
dun worry, time will heal everything !!

thanks jacss – i also regret started blogging later.. but becoz of my 1st son i buy my laptop to find the extra money thru internet. Family always come first… whatever the other option… the only way thanks again.

@Annie Q –

I understand how u feel, because i also gone through that, but ur wife lucky, got a understanding hub to help her. Me if w/o maid no one is helping me. Even my hub he can have his normal activities as usual.And yet i have to sacrify my “leisure” and stay at home to take care the boys. So u’re not alone!

Annie Q – I have no maid too and parents too old to help… so life is tough..really tough now. Now im working, i hate every minutes without them. I already missing the babies cries and my Josh begging. I am not that good ‘hubby’ too. Deep inside, i just wanna run away and be with myself…. but of coz… that will never happen.. wife too good for me to ignore her
Thanks for sharing that Annie. Appreciate it much.

@hcfoo –

I think it’s better to follow all the pantang larang rather than ignoring them. So how’s life with a new born baby? Papa, I’m sure u enjoy changing diapers, feeding milk, etc

hcfoo! Miss you around. Sorry for the long pause to your blog. Thanks for dropping by here again. Life is getting tougher each day but seeing my babies getting stronger each day and sometimes smiling back at me… makes my sacrifice all worthy. Yes, im enjoying changing diapers, feeding and the most of all, carrying them around and trying to chat with them.. hahahhaa.

Friends and visitors, thanks for the encouragement and the best wishes. I will update this blog with whats happening with my life as new papa again [to those who wanna knowlah ]; and yes, lesser sponsored posting… but just for info, most of the paid posting are real stories that happened to me. I hope no one will go away knowing I’m posting sponsored links. I have like 18 opps, tasks to do as at now. All near due date and some still there eventhough expired.

However, on the other hand, I promise I will make them lesser. keeping friends happy are always better than making enemy. So, hang around ok. Do give me feedback on what you think I should do. As always, [tag]friends’ comments appreciated here[/tag]